The Magical Dozen–How to Control Your Destiny and Create the Life You Want–In Good Times and Bad
by Murray W. Nabors, Ph.D.
Introduction. Are you living your dreams? Solving problems and achieving goals.
The Magical Dozen
Chapter 1. There is always a way. Someone who was in your situation has already survived or succeeded. How did they do it? What are you waiting for?
Chapter 2. Correct and incorrect ways of doing things. 10% of people will screw up a free lunch! Even talking to God has rules! Follow the rules for achieving your goals!
Chapter 3. Baby steps add up. Just get started! The first step is small, easy, and immensely satisfying, and small steps add up quickly and sometimes synergistically.
Chapter 4. Get help. Consult many different sources—the usual experts and some alternative ones as well. And synthesize what you’ve got into a plan that works for you.
Chapter 5. Use a spirit guide. Find one whether you believe they exist or not! They come in the strangest ways and sometimes most unexpectedly!
Chapter 6. Traditional solutions. Use accepted, logic-based solutions and realize their limitations. Get both first and second opinions. Maybe even third opinions.
Chapter 7. Alternative solutions. Caution is required, but the rewards can be great. They work more often than you might expect. Alternative medicine has saved lives on many occasions.
Chapter 8. Action, not just talk. What’s the best way to get moving? Activate the snowball effect for enhanced action.
Chapter 9. Use superconscious powers to achieve goals and solve problems. The Universe provides help in unusual ways. Use intuitions and premonitions to your advantage.
Chapter 10. The Law of Attraction and Intention—the Power of Positive Thinking
Chapter 11. The meaning of it all and how it all works. Understanding the origin, functioning, meaning, and purpose of the Universe will further the achievement of your goals.
Chapter 12. Disaster equals opportunity. Why do bad things happen to good people? Avoid disaster in the first place and use it as an opportunity when it occurs?
Applying the Magical Dozen.
Chapter 13. Start tomorrow. No, start today! End procrastination and get off the dime.
Chapter 14. Magical health. How to use the health system, alternative practitioners, and your own resources to obtain long term excellent health.
Chapter 15. Brilliant financial and career success. Even in desperate, hard times you can succeed with money.
Chapter 16. Consummate romantic fulfillment. Make your life into the movie you want it to be! Write and produce your own ending to your story.
Chapter 17. Synthesis. Tie it all together. Manifest your intentions.
Chapter 18. The spiritual dimension of success. How to live the Fourth Process as you achieve your intentions.
Chapter 19. The second dozen. Move the Magical Dozen to a whole new level.
Chapter 20. The third dozen. A look at some additional specific resources to further enhance the Magical Dozen.
Introduction. Are you living your dreams? Solving problems and achieving goals.
“I know that the twelve notes in each octave and the variety of rhythm offer me opportunities that all of human genius will never exhaust.”–Igor Stravinsky
“Jesus picked up twelve men from the bottom ranks of business and forged them into an organization that conquered the world.”–Bruce Barton
“Twelve highlanders and a bagpipe make a rebellion.”–Scottish Proverb
Tom: You were checking me out, weren’t you?
Kate: Yes, I was. You got a problem with that?
Tom: Twelve kids later and we still got the heat.
–“Cheaper By the Dozen” 2003
Prologue. When I ask you: What Have You Done Today? How will you answer? You can think to yourself, talk out loud to yourself, or write a paragraph in your journal. Remember that there are no right or wrong answers! People sometimes make check lists, which often mysteriously disappear. If the list survives, they may check things off the list. For some, just making the list is enough of a relief that the pressure is off for doing any of the items listed. There’s a lot of information out there about so-called “task lists.” But for now, we are more interested in what you have done as opposed to what might be on your potential list of things to do. So, with that digression out of the way: What Have You Done Today? What did you come up with?
Now what if I changed the assignment to: What Have You Accomplished Today to Meet Your Long term Goals? How would you answer this new question? Are there any differences between the two entries? If you are like most people, you’ll notice that you spent some to most of the day on work, chores, errands, or other routine sorts of activities that aren’tlosely linked to your goals and dreams, maybe you can’t even remember some of what you did!
Now let’s try a third question: What did I do today that felt satisfying and made me happy? Maybe this is the basic problem: There’s not enough time in the day for enough of those big picture, long-view sorts of things let alone things that are fun and satisfying. Most people find that what they’ve done today had, far too frequently, little to do with either their long term goals or their satisfaction and happiness. How strange!
I’d like the three lists to become more or less identical. If they’re not, here’s a suggestion to get you started. What one, small thing could you do right now, say for 10 or 15 minutes, which would actively move you toward where you want to be, say in one year and, at the same time, be satisfying? Once you’ve thought of what that might be, stop whatever you are doing, and do that one thing.
Maybe you check out a web site of a town where you really want to live. Or maybe you start to re-do or polish up your resume for an upcoming job application? Of perhaps you finally sign up for those western swing dance lessons you’ve been thinking about—with both fear and anticipation–off and on for six months. Whatever it is, take just a moment and celebrate what you’ve just done. I’ll come back to more accomplishing in a bit.
So what did you do? And how do you feel now that you did it? By the way, this exercise is a good one to get you started when you are feeling bogged down or stuck and as though you aren’t making any progress! I try to do this at least once a day and some days once an hour.
So how are things? Not the automatic “fine!” I’d really like to know. Which of the following paragraphs best describes you? Be honest with yourself too!
1. OUT OF CONTROL. Do you feel as though you’ve lost control of your life or maybe never had it? Are you consumed by trivia, buffeted by the economy, and controlled by other people who have no concern for your welfare? Has your purpose for living become Running Errands and staving off or cleaning up after various and sundry disasters, which seem to be increasing in frequency? Are you losing sleep and living with stress because of all this? How much are you enjoying life on a scale of 1-10, or would you rather not discuss it? Have you lost control of your own life?
2. MOVING AHEAD WAY TOO SLOWLY. Or, maybe you are moving toward the achievement of your goals, but ever so, ever so slowly. You might be out of debt if you live to be 180. You have items that have been on your to-do list for 25 years, and they still aren’t done. You are moving, but just not fast enough to comfortably get there. You are making “to do” lists, the most primitive form of organization, and then losing the lists before much, if anything, is checked off—then making the same list over again the next day. You are taking two steps forward and one and a half steps back—on too many days. Is too much going on in your life?
3. UNDERACHIEVER. Or maybe things are okay but not great. There’s food on the table and life is good, at least sometimes; but it’s not great…it’s not the way you wished it would be…the way you had planned on its being…the way it should be and could be. You are where you are, and sort of stuck there. Your fantasies are light years away from your realities. You just can’t get into road gear on making things work out wonderfully! You’re not going to look very impressive at your high school reunion, and maybe should consider not even going. So you haven’t made it anywhere near to where you’d hoped you’d be?
4. ENDLESS STRUGGLE. Maybe you are achieving your goals, but they are simply replaced by more goals or, worse, they aren’t really your goals. You have always been rewarded for achieving goals, and you can’t seem to reach the goal of enjoying what you have achieved. Lots of educated, successful people produce children with this problem. These are people who find retirement difficult, maybe even life threatening! These are people who rarely take vacations and who don’t enjoy them when they do. Is your life nothing but goals?
5. CONSUMED BY TRIVIA. Perhaps your life is consumed by useless, unproductive behaviors and activities that steal energy and fill up your day and compulsively sap resources so that you have no time or energy left to achieve useful goals. You may spend all your leisure time watching sports—the latest playoffs, playing video games, cooking and cleaning, doing crossword puzzles, shopping, watching TV or movies, or just hanging out. You compulsively grab glances at your watch, or, worse, pull up e-mail, or CNN, or Twitter. If you’re a student, maybe, like the majority of students these days you call someone on the cell phone as soon as you come out of class, really having nothing to say, or, worse, text mindlessly during class or pull up Facebook during study for some real quality time and a premier learning experience. And, after all this frenzied activity, you lie awake at night unable to go to sleep and then can’t get out of bed in the morning. Your life is consumed by trivia?
6. OH YEAH! You are achieving your goals and solving your problems in a timely and satisfying manner. Life is good, and you are living your dreams and pursuing an even more satisfying future. Every day is a life worth living! And it seems like every month and every year just get better and better. You are relaxed and yet busy. You can’t imagine having a better job. Life is a lollapalooza!